If there is one book you should read this year

We all wish we could stay young forever. But ageing has a way of creeping up on us.

When did life get so serious? Why is it, as we grow older, we don't laugh as much? Why do we stop seeing the opportunities and the excitement and instead start feeling drained, cynical and out-of-touch? And just when did we turn into our parents?

Tim Drake and I spent over two years researching these very issues - and we came to a surprisingly simple insight - ageing really is all in the mind. In our ground-breaking book, 'You Can Be As Young As You Think', we show how you can test your brain's age and then train your brain to think younger, feel younger and be sharper.

You see, through our research, we uncovered the secrets of rejuvenation. These are the 6 Wisdoms of Youth. Each one is a powerful antedote to getting old - yet each one is surprisingly easy to apply through a series of practical tasks. Anyone, whatever their age, can learn these Wisdoms and truly rejuvenate their thinking - and their lives.

Here are some of the benefits you could reap from reading 'You Can Be As Young As You Think' :

- learn how to think with a 'Young Brain' and face life head-on with positivity and enthusiasm

- avoid becoming grumpy & irrelevant

- look younger, feel younger, act younger

- regain or retain everything you loved about being young

- be surrounded by people who make life worth living

- live a more fulfilling, successful and happier life

- aim towards eternal youth by leaving a legacy

In short, our life changing book helps you rediscover your youthful self and live the life you are only dreaming about. What other book promises you that?

And, of course, if you are a life coach, this book is sure to give you new insights into your work with clients.

'You Can Be As Young As You Think' was published by Pearson in May 2009. Place a order through http://www.amazon.co.uk/

Getting old happens young

I imagine that if I interviewed a dozen people in their 50s, most would say that they became aware of ageing when they turned 30. It's about at this age when last night's exercise routine leaves stiff limbs in the morning. It can also be the age when the grey hairs start to show. And, of course, it's that time when new parents start to recognise that their reactions mirror those of their parents.

It's that "OMG! I'm turning into my mum/dad!" moment.

However, social statistics show how much hidden ageing there is, well before our 30s! It may come as a shock but dreams and imagination, for example, can start drying up from 25 onwards.

What is even more shocking is that teenagers are also failing to find a vision for their lives. A University of Minnesota study of 20,000 kids found that 15% think they are going to die early. Far from engaging in risky behaviour because of invincibility, the survey suggests that many teenagers adopt unsafe practices because they decide that there's not a lot at stake. The future is already a no go zone.

For all of us, avoiding bad behaviour and unhealthy practices is partly about having belief in a better future. Avoid the negativity of Old Brain thinking. Rejuvenate using the 6 Wisdoms of Youth.

Blowing open the assumptions about ageing

Are you one of those people who believe that ageing brings new wisdom and a better perspective on life? What if you have it upside down? Could it be that life was simpler when you were younger because you were better at living it?

Lots of social research points to the fact that the young have an approach to life which is more positive and leads to more fulfillment. For example, the young are simply more sociable. As people get older, they withdraw and fall back on a smaller and smaller circle of friends. And going out in crowds becomes terrifying - rather than exciting.

As for the wisdom of age, perhaps FP Jones was on to something when he said:

"Experience is that marvellous thing that enables you to recognise a mistake when you make it again".

So perhaps it's time to start challenging some of the common assumptions about ageing. Here are three truisms about the ageing process which go against the average view:

1. Ageing is more about how you think than how you look (so forget about botox and start looking at mindset change)

2. Wisdom is not only something you learn. You were born with a natural wisdom - the Wisdom of Youth (so work hard to regain what you've lost with the passage of time and don't think life is going to get easier, just because you are older)

3. People drift into 'old' thinking (grumpy and negative) as early as their early 20s (avoid become old before your time by rejuvenating your thoughts and acquiring a 'Young Brain').

It's been said that 'ageing' is the obsession of our times. If that's so, better start with the right assumption base.

Knowing when to hold your tongue

There are many potential traps we can fall into in our quest to have a youthful approach to our lifes. One is to go all out to ape today's youth. Copying today's street slang or teenager's clothes styles simply gets an older person into trouble. As Tim Drake says 'mutton dressed as lamb' is not a desirable label to have.

A second sticky point is to believe that rejuvenation gives you the license to make all the mistakes of your youth again. As we say in our book, 'You Can Be As Young As You Think' maturity should bring benefits - what we call The Wisdom of Experience.

Not everyone gets wiser as they get older - but some do learn the lessons of life as they go. We list 6 key wisdoms that come with age in the last chapter of our book - 'Eternal Youth'. One of these is 'an enviable equanimity' and I experienced a perfect example of this last week.

You see, Tim and I are very excited as co-authors, knowing that our book hits British bookshops on June 1st 2009. It's been such a long time coming! However, we were set back on our heels last week when our editor announced that the book was coming off the presses but they'd noticed a typo on the back cover! I won't spoilt your pleasure in spotting this whopper. You'll have to buy the book for that. But here's my point.

A younger version of myself would have got very hot under the collar. Young people are nothing if not impetuous and hot-headed; they rage against the world and its injustices. However, with maturity you get a sense that the best way to deal with the slings and arrows of bad fortune is to grin and bear it. The growing capacity to behave with grace under pressure is one of the greatest boons of increasing years.

So, on your journey to a younger you, don't take on all the clothes of the young; choose judiciously between the Wisdom of Youth and the follies of youth. Our book will help you come out on the right side.